The wild-Mind Blog
On burnout, neurodivergence, and building a life that fits.
How to overcome imposter syndrome when you are one.
Sure, we all know about imposter syndrome by now. Most of us can probably talk ourselves out of it a lot of the time. “nono, I’m fine. I’m not an imposter.” But… like… what if you actually are? What happens then?
Let me tell you about a time I was 100% an imposter. Brazenly. In a way that weirded out my friends. And what I learned from that experience. (Spoiler, it was a great experience).
A different way of understanding Neurodiversity
My new way of understanding neurodiversity is that it’s like biodiversity: necessary for a healthy ecosystem.
We’re different in the way that cedar, birch and ponderosa pine are all different kinds of trees. When you cut down cedar and birch and turn them into lumber they have a lot of value. But ponderosa isn’t as easy to use…
What is self-trust and how do I get it?
Self-trust is knowing and inhabiting yourself and owning your abilities. It’s respect for yourself as you are, and the natural drive of curiosity that motivates you to grow. It’s also the humility to understand that we are interdependent, and the ability to build trust with others. It’s an open-ended belief in our ability to grow.
Why Imposter Syndrome can be a good sign
Being an imposter often means we’re breaking trail. It’s a feeling that accompanies exploration, cross-pollination and innovation. It’s disruptive and uncomfortable because change is disruptive and uncomfortable. It means we have something to share and something to learn.
There’s a big difference between knowing it and doing it
This isn’t a sermon on going outside (but also, go outside! It’s nice there! There are cool things like moss and small birds and rivers). But I want to point out the blind spots we have because of our values. I know this is good for me. I believe in it. I espouse it. So it must mean I do it. Only, does it?
Don’t skip this step in your big life transitions.
I’m forever amazed at how quickly people expect to bounce back after a big life change. I often hear my clients say: “I left my corporate job/my marriage/school/moved across the country/retired a while ago, but I don’t feel any desire to work on my business/dive into studies/get creative in the studio. What’s wrong with me?”
What if you don’t make decisions the way you think you do?
Recently I’ve noticed people don’t always make decisions in the way they think they do.
It looks like they are deciding. They’re talking about it, they’re weighing pros and cons. They’re hesitating. They’re doubting themselves. But ultimately, The decision has already been made, They’re just convincing themselves of it.
